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Often times, I find we particularly have a hard time with family because they look at us like traitors. In their minds, we’re now Turks! We’ve gone over to the OTHER side.
And for Greeks, that’s just about the worst thing you can do! I’m serious. You can come home pregnant (outside of marriage) or basically become an atheist and still look better to your mom than if you become the baboolas, the big monster Muslim.
See, for many of us Greek Muslims, we still want to keep our culture along with our Islam. And there is no problem with that as long as we don’t indulge in forbidden acts. But how do we find that middle path?
When I think Greek, I think of a Big, Fat, Greek Wedding. Seriously.
A big loud, traditional dancing party with food for the entire village. Drinking, music, pure wildness and kissing from cheek to cheek. Everyone knows everyone. And a place where really, anything goes.
Try finding the middle path now! As you can see, it’s hard at times. Eventually, I came to grips with it and learned to take the good and throw out the bad. Obviously, no more Greek weddings for me! I now spend a lot more time with family, choosing the environment carefully.
I’m very careful not to admonish others about their lifestyle choices but make it very clear to them how I choose to live my lifestyle and they cannot sway me otherwise. In fact, I learned to give dawah through my actions and not my tongue, and now I’m a lot more respected than ever before. In fact, my mom coined my new nickname, ei kaloygria (the nun).
So, the best advice I can give to new converts is to seek knowledge first. Find a good mentor and group of friends who are pious and knowledgeable in Islam that you can emulate.
Islam is compelling because it’s so simple and natural. With further prodding, Islam can also be very deep and complex because it covers every single aspect of our lives. So, when learning more about the details of Islam, it’s always best to go to people of knowledge. As they say, you are who your friends are.
What are your experiences or advice about culture and Islam?
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